Fatherhood Aborted addresses the emotional devastation of men involved in abortion. Discusses the aftershocks of abortion, including violence, addictive behaviors, isolation, resistance to authority, and difficulty bonding with women and children. Includes personal accounts of men who’ve lost a child to abortion and shows that the path to forgiveness and healing is found in a vital relationship with Christ. Order here or email Warren Williams.
Tears of the Fisherman by Kevin Burke, LSW
Through case studies, personal testimony, and the author’s 20 years of experience in post-abortion counseling, you will encounter men devastated by unwanted abortions, the burden of shame and guilt carried by men who were passive at the time of the abortion decision or pressured their partners to abort, and the impact of abortion among the male prison population.
Chapters of the book explore the impact of abortion on relationships, male celebrity abortion stories, addiction and abortion loss, abortion in the African-American community, a grandfather’s story of family healing, and the recovery experience for men.
As you encounter the men in Tears of the Fisherman, you will discover that like the Apostle Peter’s painful denial of the Christ, they emerged from their journey of repentance and healing stronger, faith-filled and compassionate men. Order.
Men and Abortion: A Path to Healing focuses on the problems experienced by men who’ve lost a child to abortion, including anger, helplessness, guilt, relationship problems and grief. The steps toward healing are described in terms of each of these problems. An excellent aid not only for men who’ve lost a child to abortion, but for all those who care for and counsel them. Order.
Sons of Adam is a prayer and companion workbook to Men and Abortion: A Path To Healing. The central need is a safe place where a man can tell his story with neither complacency nor condemnation. Offers short scripture readings, traditional prayers, other men’s stories, questions for reflection, and simple blessing prayers. Order.
The House of Esau manual, written by a father who lost a child to abortion, details a process designed to alleviate some of the stresses experienced by a father who has lost a child to abortion. Included also are some of the understanding gained by various Men and Abortion Network members. Order.
Through letters written more than 40 years after the author lost his daughter to elective abortion, Letters to Pilgrim shares the author’s life and the life he imagines his daughter might have lived. His pain and his hard-won peace are candidly shared with his readers. Order.
In Dearest Angel, the author shares the depth of his pain as a father who lost a child to abortion. He has done a great service to those who walk where he has walked and those trying to understand the pain of a father who has lost his child to abortion. Order.
In Forgiveness: I Just Can’t Forgive Myself, Robert D. Jones identifies five possible assumptions behind the longing for self-forgiveness. In the process, he pinpoints a deeper problem – and a deeper solution to ongoing guilt. By dispelling a number of misconceptions, Jones clears the path to a joyful realization of complete forgiveness in Christ. Order.
Tony’s life changes the moment he learns he’s going to be a father. A casual relationship grows serious and he faces a choice that will ultimately be made for him. Tony tries to persuade his girlfriend to keep their baby but she chooses abortion and Tony blames himself. Did he say the wrong things? Was he just not good enough? Would he ever get another chance to be a father?
Tony’s experience shows that abortion isn’t just a women’s issue, but one that can also affect men in unexpected ways. Order.
Each abortion involves both a man and a woman and often leaves them wounded and confused, immediately or even years later. Abortion causes multiple losses: the child, the relationship, self-worth, and hope. Men and Abortion: Finding Healing, Restoring Hope recognizes that abortion debases fatherhood as it violates a man’s instinct to protect and care for those he loves. Free download.
Swallowed by a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing is an acclaimed contribution to the existing literature about coping with loss, blending folklore, cross-cultural analysis, and clinical advice to help men and women understand the specific context and needs of grieving men. Order.
GROUP & BIBLE STUDIES
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SaveOne: The Men’s Study is for men seeking deliverance from the pain and guilt of an abortion experience. This is a guide as well as a workbook, researched and written by a woman who had an abortion when she was a teenager. For seven years, author Sheila Harper carried with her the shame and humiliation of her abortion, only to find deliverance through God’s abundant grace. Today, Sheila has walked through the SaveOne study with many men, training men to lead abortion recovery groups, as well as mentor other men who want to heal after lost fatherhood.
It will help you pinpoint the debilitating issues of forgiveness, anger, and wrong thoughts. SaveOne will guide you toward God’s grace and His renewal of your mind. Step by step, this study guide shows you how to rely on your Creator for the courage to deal with the past, while answering questions such as:
Is there life after an abortion?
Can I really overcome my guilt and be set free?
Does God really care about me?
Fatherhood Lost: Leading a Bible Study to Help Fathers Heal After an Abortion. Not a Bible study per se, this manual offers instead a step-by-step communication model that can be used to guide any Bible study on the subject. Free download.
Missing Arrows Bible Study. Lost fatherhood includes fatherhood lost to abortion. Even when the law of the land makes no sense, God is our compass to keep our thinking straight. When loss occurs we have permission from God to grieve and be comforted! This bible study is designed for a Lay Counselor and/or Mentor to help facilitate your grief and recovery. Free download.
Repairing His Story is a five-session Bible study for men related to an abortion experience. The study can be done individually or, for maximum benefit, in a group. Structured around the grief cycle, the study focuses on the names of God that reveal His character and desire to heal. Leader’s guide and student manual available. Both come with Daily Contentment with God. Order.
Whether you need daily inspiration, a therapeutic guide for serious emotional recovery, or a spiritual lift, Daily Contentment With God will provide insights from God for living. Each of the 366 devotionals is centered on human needs, applying Scripture to that need. Order.
An insightful Bible study for men touched by abortion, Healing a Father’s Heart helps these “silent, wounded warriors” move from denial to acceptance and forgiveness through God’s love. Order.
Facilitating Biblical Healing – Men: The Complete Leader’s Guide is the leader’s guide for use with Healing a Father’s Heart: A Post-Abortion Bible Study for Men. Contains foundations for ministry, comprehensive guidelines and other resource materials. Order.
BROCHURES & INSERTS
It is easier to help hurting fathers when you understand why they are affected by abortion. This brochure will give you a brief summary on why they grieve and how to help them. For printable format click here.
Men who do not hide their feelings often describe the abortion experience as bewildering and painful beyond their coping abilities. An excellent aid to help us understand and assist with this situation. Order Forgotten Fathers.
Bulletin insert assures men and women who’ve lost a child to abortion that your church is a place to heal, find love, and receive Christ’s forgiveness and grace without judgment. Free download.
Men Hurt Too. An estimated five million men in the United States are struggling emotionally and psychologically after the abortion of their children. When abortion interrupts a man’s natural desire to provide for and protect his family, he may be left with feelings of guilt, inadequacy and anger. This episode from Season 1 of Facing Life Head-On features three such men: movie producer Jonathan Flora, firefighter Jeff Phipps, and Tripp Curtis, father of 12. They share their stories to help other men can find healing and hope. Order DVD.
Truth Tellers – David Williams. David Williams is one of those refreshing voices we seek to hear. His story is so graphically transparent and beautifully victorious. The world needs to hear the man’s voice and David is a leader in bringing men’s voices back into the issue of abortion and abortion pain. Please feel free to share everywhere you can so other men will know they are being welcomed back into this issue!
Men in the Aftermath, from Season 3 of Facing Life Head-On. Retired sports anchor John Morales and film producer Jason Jones led very different lives, but each suffered the same traumatic experience: anger, depression, commitment issues and guilt over the loss of his child to abortion.
John begged his girlfriend to reconsider her decision to abort. She refused and demanded he pay for the abortion. Jason and his girlfriend, then high school sophomores, agreed to provide for their baby. But the baby was never born, the relationship ended, and Jason struggled with a legal system that allowed someone to kill his child. Order DVD.
POWERPOINT & AUDIO PRESENTATIONS
Hidden Victims discusses the effects of abortion on men and how to address them. (PowerPoint presentation; formerly Can You Hear Their Pain?) Order.
Giving voice to men who are often overlooked on Father’s Day and any other day: men who’ve lost a child to abortion. Audio presentation. Listen.
Mercy Great Enough offers hope, connection, and healing for women and men who have carried secret guilt and shame over an abortion decision in their past. The project assures the listener that nothing can separate us from the love of God. The message is that you are not alone. Mercy and forgiveness are real, and freedom is possible.
The full-length project contains thirteen songs, two spoken word pieces and comes with a devotional guide. Lyrics are included. Order.